That Moment After Leaving a Relationship
When we make that decision to leave a situation, or a relationship, or a job that’s just not good for us anymore and we know it… there is a period of time before the goodness comes.
When we leave that situation, but we haven’t seen the fruits of our labor yet, we find ourselves sitting in an empty space. It's uncomfortable.
Your decision to sit in that space is one of the most powerful things that you can do. In that time, you might not feel like you belong to anybody around you, or that to whom you belong is now limited.
If you want things to change from that previous life from days, or months, or years ago… if you want to belong back to yourself again, you have to trust that space that feels like nothingness.
Belonging to yourself means seeing who you are, seeing your values, embracing who you are, loving yourself through it, and celebrating who you are. This is self-belonging – I see, I embrace, I celebrate myself.
One of the ways that you celebrate yourself (because celebration is an action) is by sitting in that space and sitting in that discomfort. We are not entitled to our comfort 24/7, but you got this. That space is where you gain confidence. It’s where you remember who you are. It gives new experiences an opportunity to arise. But you have to trust its ability to be transient, to bring about change. It takes a minute. Filling that space with the same choices you made in the past is running from an opportunity to rediscover who you can become.
Belong back to yourself again, and then you will see what opens for you. You’ll have new people. You will have new situations. You’ll see new parts of yourself. And the new you creates new spaces to explore.